Montreal Dating, it’s tough out there…

Being single in 2025 is not easy and I think it's important to acknowledge that fact rather than telling people "get out there", "go meet new people", "you'll always be alone if you stay home all the time". While these statements are true, it's also true that dating is scary, exhausting, a lot of work, and most of that work has to be on ourselves.

So if you are tired and haven't done any of the work to be the best version of yourself at the table, I would prefer you stayed home. I have seen one too many horror stories that I would rather save myself and my lovely guests from your single person's bad behaviour.

Here are a few stories that you might enjoy:

The Fugitives

A while back we had an event where everyone seemed to be having a good time. Everyone was talking while grabbing drinks at the bar enjoying their meal. It was a vibe. We finished the first course and moved on to the intercourse while everyone was at the bar, I was doing the seat switch. The fugitives attended the intercourse but then walked up to the dinner area to be seated for the second course and walked away. I saw it happen in real time and could not believe my eyes. I was mortified. It's never happened before and I was like a deer in the headlights. Luckily, I was able to rearrange the seats quickly and recover from that hit and run like behaviour. The fugitives were the most unkind people I have ever met at our events. What was another 20 minutes ? Finish your meal and leave for dessert when you no longer need to be assigned a seat. Excuse yourself that you need to begin work early the next day and that's it. If you can't even finish a dinner party on a Wednesday night then what are your dates like ? Are you a gold medalist in ghosting ? That behaviour was completely unacceptable, some people attend our events and have matches and others don't. You may have attended our events three times and only matched at your last one, but did you leave during dinner at any point ? Probably not. 

The overzealous sparkster

This person was connecting faster than the internet. While some people's internal processors are still using windows 95 and are too slow to make a move or take a chance this one was connecting so fast that the technology is not even out yet. It was crazy ! Everyone wanted to be their friend or be matched with them but were the sparks meaningful ? Not so much since they didn't even take the time to respond to the match form. They clearly met great people, they were engaged and seemed interested, so why not take a chance on someone and see where it will take you ?

Everyone is so quick to judge, most have a checklist that lacks morals and values, others are dishonest, so I understand why dating is tough. I see why some people would prefer to stay home, but if you have done the work and you are happy with yourself none of that stuff should bother you. It's their problem not yours. None of the single people's bad behaviour is a reflection of you. It's a "them" problem, not a "you" problem.

If you can dodge the bullets and focus on the positive because there are a lot of good things to absorb in the dating world. I highly encourage you to join us at our next event. 

See you soon,

Jenn